Wednesday, July 1, 2009

People Mirror their Leadership


by Don Harkey

I was involved in an interesting discussion with a client recently. We were talking about important traits of a leader and the trait of character was brought up. While everyone in the room believed that character was an important trait, the question arose as to whether it was important in terms of leadership of an organization. Is high ethics and character really important to a business or is it just a trait that we like people to have? In other words, all other things being equal, does a person of high character make a better leader than a person of lesser character?

Have you ever heard that pets often reflect their owners? If you see a burly looking gruff guy walking down the street with a pit bull, I don't think I would pet the dog. While this isn't always true, the truth is that it is sometimes true. A dog owner who is rough and doesn't treat their dog nicely will often get a dog who is rough and doesn't treat anyone else nicely.

The same is true for management. Workers often reflect their managers. A McDonald's or other fast food place has very tight controls on how the restaurant is to be run. They hire the same people with the same food and the same procedures. However, you might hear someone say, "oh... that's a good McDonald's" or "that McDonald's isn't very good". What is the difference? Simple. It's management.

Have you ever complained about poor service at a business only to discover that the person you are complaining to is even worse? I got incredibly bad serve at a fast food place (there was nearly a riot in the place) and called the manager out who said, "what do you expect me to do?". That's funny... that is exactly the attitude the upset customers were seeing!

One of the largest myths in business is that hiring is search for "good people". The fact is that while people have widely varying strengths and weaknesses, they typically want to do a good job. A "bad person" is probably just someone who lived under bad management. A "good person" is probably just someone who lived under good management. Yes, it takes awhile to get someone to assimilate to a culture, but it is possible and very worth it. The thing is that the "culture" doesn't come from a procedures manual, slogan, or mission statement, it comes from the day to day reality of the organization. It comes from the walk, not from the talk.

This is why character is important in business and why people of high character are so much more valuable. A manager might really like their employees and truly care about what they do. If the manager lies to a client in order to protect the company, this might be considered a "tough decision", but justified. The problem is that employees see this and absorb the culture. They protect each other by not sharing information on mistakes. They hide negative feedback from clients. Pretty soon, leadership is not getting real information from the client that is needed to make good decisions.

Good guys really do win in the end. Hitler was a very strong leader with a clear (and horrifying) vision. In the end, his constant deceptions caught up with him as his people held back information. As the Allies landed on D-Day, Hitler was asleep. None of his people would wake him and none of them would give an order. This was critical in the course of the war.

If your organization has a lot of corruption, look at your leadership. If you have trouble finding the right type of person, first look for the right type of leader.

Sunday, June 28, 2009

Choosing to Be Happy


by Don Harkey

I was talking with Chris Watkins last week, a Springfield Wellness Coach, and she was presenting her "unified theory" of organizations, which is a work in progress. One of the factors she had was "Awareness". This is a great point that many people don't realize (aren't "aware" of!).

I used to have a problem with road rage. I didn't yell at anyone, but I would just get angry when someone cut me off or drove badly near me. My blood pressure would rise and I would tense up. Then one day, someone said something that hit home. "You realize that most of the time the other person has no idea that you are mad at them." From that day forward, I was cured. I don't get mad anymore. I simply decided to stop. It was really THAT simple.

I think the concept of "Awareness" is that we all have the ability to control our reactions to things. As another saying goes, "you can't be offended without first giving your permission". If someone calls you a name, you can get upset or you can decide not to get upset. Seriously.

Andy Andrews, author of "Traveler's Gift" talks about choosing to be happy. We all have problems and we all have challenges in our lives. It is NOT fair. Yet, how we deal with these challenges is our choice. Our society sometimes teaches us that this is not true. We teach ourselves to act PC and be cautious not to offend, and to some extent, being considerate of others is a good thing.

Within an organization, this can go too far.

When a friend of mine recently made a mistake, I approached the friend and told them how I felt. It was painful, but she appreciated it. I recently had a client tell me how he felt I could have improved on one aspect of my service. Ouch! Ego is what makes it hurt, but when we are "aware", we can overcome this and process the information. The suggestion will only make me a better consultant and will only make him a more trusted source of information.

So, be aware that you have control. If it seems hard, it is only because you are making it that way. Simply choose to react differently. Simply choose not to get upset. Simply choose to have control. Get a grip! Keep your wits about you! It will make a big difference in your life!